As we begin a new year in the Trust and Caring community the big thing on our minds is separation. We are asking ourselves how can we help each little person and their family find the right ways for them to separate?
Separation can be a challenging time for everyone and navigating this process in a positive way can look very different from one person to the next. At MYIS we aim to help each little person and their family work calmly and confidently through the stages of separation process.
The Stages of the Separation Process at MY
|Stage 1: Introduction
||Stage 1: Introduction
|Stage 2: Caregiver remains in the one designated area of the room on the chairs provided
||Stage 2: Caregiver remains in the one designated area of the room on the chairs provided
|Stage 3: Beginning
||Stage 3: Beginning
|Stage 4: Caregivers leaves the class for certain duration of time, returning at the agreed time
||Stage 4: Caregivers leave the class for certain duration of time, returning at the agreed time
|Stage 5: Caregiver leaves for extended period of time, returning at the agreed time with the child.
||Stage 5: Caregiver leaves for extended period of time, returning at the agreed time with the child.
|Stage 6: Conclusion, Exiting
||Stage 6: Conclusion, Exiting
Janet Lansbury, is a parenting advisor and teacher. In this brief article https://www.janetlansbury.com/2018/03/separating-confidence-clingy-child/ she speaks about some ways of confidently separating and the messages adults can be sending our little people. It highlights the importance of viewing little people as capable of managing situations and expressing themselves. This points out the importance of the messages, both verbal and non-verbal, we are sending our little people. Are we showing them that we are confident with our body language? Are we speaking with in them ways that build a positive image of themselves?
As we keep these thoughts and question in mind, here are some other tips that may help make separation smoother:
- Make your own goodbye ritual. It could be anything, for example, you might play together with the same toy each morning, visit the animals or have a hug and a kiss before your goodbye.
- Clearly communicate a time you will return and use our routine to help mark the time, for example, “I’m going now and I’ll be back at lunch time”.
- Highlight the positives. Talk about who you will see at school and the fun things that will or did happen that day.
However, it works best for you and your little person do stick to a routine. As respected early childhood educator, Magda Gerber said “predictability brings about security.” Routines help us understand what’s coming next and feel more comfortable at any age. As we work through this journey together please keep in mind that just as each person is unique, so to is each separation journey.